Romance can be unromantic?
The road less traveled is likely the most exciting. We are all familiar with the usual romantic gestures and some of them can be cheesy and less meaningful when repeated with robotic-like repartition. There are some ways that you can show that special person you want to get closer to without it coming across as “oh this again”
Here is a couple of ideas, If your partner doing something, be in it with them.
For example, your wife is reading her daily mail and she mentions something from it.
Actions: go over to her and place your hand on her shoulder touching her softly and after responding with verbal communication, lower your hand to the middle of the shoulder blades more firmly than the shoulder touch. By fully engaging at the moment with her you have communicated to her that you hear her, see her, and acknowledge what she’s saying all in the span of 5 min.
Best Outcome: she should feel validated, heard, and seen. (we all wants this)
For example, it’s quiet in the room where you and your partner are
Actions: Break the silence with an unexpected compliment. Something like: “I feel so at peace with you”, “I loved the way you created….” “You are the most…….” “You are so strong & wise…….”, everyone appreciates an honest compliment, say something you’ve never said before. This will usually start a conversation on why you would say this, and your simple answer will be, “because isn’t true, I was thinking how my life is better with you in it.” Then go back to what you were doing. This can also be done by walking into a quiet room and announcing it then walking out.
Best Outcome: it lets them know how important they are to you, leaves them feeling valued, held in a sacred space
Both examples can be repeated periodically when needed to warm things up. Building intimacy doesn’t always have to involve heavy romance it can be a bit of postive communication, a long look, a 5 min meaningful encouraging talk, a favor, or a task. All of it builds within each other the words “I love you”, so much so that when it is uttered it has heavy meaning.
Can you think of any other ways to get close and build intimcy ?
Create a New way to celebrate!
Did you know there are lots of things to celebrate? In the month of June (not a complete list) there are many days to smile and appreciate something or someone. Take June 1st for example, say something nice day…such a great day right!
Yes! You can start with the person closest to you.
What we celebrated in June?
Here are more fun things to celebrate this June:
- June 1: Say Something Nice Day.
- June 3: Chimborazo Day.
- June 6: National Yo-Yo Day.
- June 8: Upsy Daisy Day.
- June 21: Go Skateboarding Day.
- June 30: Asteroid Day.
Make a list of things you would like to celebrate other than the major days of the year, examples:
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- can be “make a cake day”
- “fix a car day”
- “my favorite things day”
Do something special or give a gift to yourself or others on those days, be sure to take pictures for memories and change it up every year.
See our great gift ideas @ BasketsOLove.com
Ab*sti*nence, not a dirty word
Definition of abstinence
1: the practice of abstaining from something: the practice of not doing or having something that is wanted or enjoyable… ate with haste and an apparent relish, that seemed to betoken long abstinence from food.— Walter Scott
Webster’s definition at least, but this could mean different things to different people depending on where you are in life. Abstinence can mean different things depending on who you ask. Many people say abstinence is not doing ANY kind of sexual stuff with another person, including vaginal, oral, and anal sex — that’s what we’re calling abstinence on this blog today.
Anybody can be abstinent, no matter the age, gender, sexuality, or sexual experiences you’ve had before. People are abstinent off and on for reasons that may change over time, some are even abstinent their whole lives. This is a personal choice that you can enact at any time in your life, even if you’ve had sex before. There are no rules here. However, there are a few things to note:
1. Keep yourself HONEST!
2. Accountability partners work here as well.
3. Devote time to make sure other needs are being met.
4. Don’t publicize.
5. Get what you’re looking for out of it.
- Be Honest, is this because you have no one to date and have sex with, or is this truly a journey into the unknown to find self, worth, peace, etc.? Have a plan/why. Stick to it, if someone can come along and make you forget your commitment to yourself, it wasn’t a commitment.
- Confide to one or two close friends and/or family that this is what’s planned for however long it is planned. Keeping them in the loop about the journey keeps all minds clear of confusion and keeps you from bouncing off the walls.
- Keep a journal and indulge in girls/guys’ night, pick up a business venture, a hobby, pray more, read, relax veg out in front of the TV, then get up and care for yourself – eyes, skin, hair, nails, etc…don’t neglect YOU, the house, dog, cat, or family and friends.
- If you don’t want to be used by someone who just wants to see if you’ll keep your word to yourself, you don’t need to tell everybody. People will test you. It will make you feel lousy to see they only wanted to break you. Ease into a relationship during abstaining… take your time, and don’t jump into sexual intercourse right away. After a while, they will reveal their intentions.
- Pursue purpose. What is it you want(ed) to gain? GO GET THAT!
Look for our special abstinence collection from BasketsOLove
Baskets Ohh😘 Love, What We Do?
What we do at BasketsOLove:
*Adults only: We offer products and services that will revolutionize your love life.
Simply put we aid you on the perfect romantic occasion. We cater to people who may or may not prefer sexual aids/enhancements. We have a wide range of products and services to explore the hidden wild side or celebrate a lover by letting them know they’re your #1.
Generally, we help with: keeping the heat in romance, great lovemaking tips, dog house situations, couple celebrations, we help you to speak and educate sexual needs, we can also help you woo that special someone of your dreams.
We sell original collections created exclusively for BasketsOLove. We also sell pleasure aids, devices, educational materials to enhance your needs. All of our material has been hand-selected from some of the best brands in the industry giving you the ability to explore what it takes to get good love and satisfaction.
Our services include our branded “Date Night Party Workshops”, private spa services and packages (coming soon) private chef services (also coming soon), and our coveted romantic hunts.
XXX What we Don’t Do:
We do NOT indulge in inappropriate profane sexual pornographic material like live nude models, specific fetishes, sexually explicit magazines, or videos.
We do NOT discriminate based on color, personal religion, sexual preference, or personal identity.
We are NOT just another sex toy store, enhancing relationships and romances is our first priority.
Part of the proceeds is donated to the unfortunate victims of sex trafficking and battered women organizations.
*Minor children under the age of 18 strictly prohibited.